Friendship Centerโ€™s Hot Meals Build a Community United Around a Weekly Menu

Guest blog post by Deborah Cohen, volunteer and Board Member

Itโ€™s 5:30 p.m., 30 minutes before opening, and the line for takeout is snaking down the block. The crowds are eager to sample the eveningโ€™s menu of chicken curry with fresh peach chutney, rice and broccoli.

The purveyor of this destination is not a food truck or restaurant pop-upโ€”itโ€™s the increasingly popular hot meal program offered weekly by The Friendship Center. Begun in 2018, the program now offers portable meals every Thursday night from 6:00 to 7:30 p.m. to 260 clients on average at the Centerโ€™s 2711 W. Lawrence Ave. location. In recent weeks, the program has served 320 or more meals in a single evening.

Matthew Williams visiting the Friendship Center for a hot meal.

โ€œThis is important,โ€ says Matthew Williams, 42, a client and North Side resident, who was once unhoused for five years. He is a fan of the Centerโ€™s chicken meals. โ€œThis is what they need to keep,โ€ he adds. โ€œNo one should go hungry.โ€

Williams is part of a diverse community of clients, many repeat participants, who are willing to line up weekly to receive balanced meals they say are convenient, nutritious, and readily available, no questions asked. 

Beyond a love of the carefully prepared food, demand for the fresh meals is increasing due to economic pressures. Those include rising inflation on household staples such as food and gasoline, as well as recent cuts to the governmentโ€™s Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program, or SNAP, the longstanding federal food assistance program.

Every meal is an opportunity to care for one another, nourish our neighbors and remind everyone that they have a place at our table,โ€ says Nadia Jimenez, executive director. 

Behind the scenes

Preparation for the weekly menu begins two days ahead of service, requiring careful planning and a team of staff and volunteers both to cook the food and hand it to clients as they come through the line. 

A neighbor favorite this summer: Breakfast for dinner

At the programโ€™s core are staff members Mateo Reynaud, 22, and Bree Perry, 27. Both had experience in professional kitchens prior to joining the Center, and both are, incidentally, members of Chicagoโ€™s trans community. They say being part of that minority group has helped to inform their mindset in the centerโ€™s tiny kitchen, ensuring they create a welcoming environment for volunteers, while creating meals that acknowledge the wide-ranging culinary backgrounds of clients.

โ€œWe try to do what we know people will enjoy,โ€ says Reynaud, programs manager, who grew up in New Orleans and was exposed to that cityโ€™s renowned cuisine. Feedback from volunteers and clients is important, he says, noting that family recipes from volunteers have made their way onto the menu. 

โ€œWe have the basics of really good food here,โ€ says Perry, programs and volunteer coordinator, adding that the team is tasked with creating meals primarily from ingredients donated to the pantry. She was particularly proud of a recent meal whose cost was 6 cents per plateโ€”just $20 to serve about 300 people.

Perry has been pushing to up the kitchen skills for regular volunteers, recently offering knife skills training from professional chefs. She and her colleagues have also set up important partnerships, such as with Love Fridge Chicago, which distributes the Centerโ€™s leftover meals to others in need.

The Centerโ€™s holistic approach resonates with volunteers like Zack Kam, 36, who was recently working a nine-week stint in the kitchen to help fulfill a community service requirement.

From left to right: Volunteer Leo M, summer intern Abbey, and staff member Bree Perry serving hot meals and snacks to neighbors.

โ€œI like the mission,โ€ Kam says. Working in the hot meal program has put him in touch with โ€œall sorts of cool people โ€“ a lot of young people, people a lot older.โ€ 

And while these operational nuances are important to those creating the meals, they may go unnoticed by the programโ€™s loyal clients whose takeaways are good food and a sense of belonging. That is true for Linda Smith, 60, who works in south suburban schools with special needs children and travels up from the South Side to partake in both the food pantry and the hot meal program.

 โ€œSometimes I get here, and Iโ€™m so tired,โ€ she says. โ€œBut this is so special.โ€

A Summer Sorter’s Experience at The Friendship Center

I started volunteering at The Friendship Center when I was four years old. My dad is a teacher, and I volunteer with him in the summer. Once COVID hit, volunteering obviously stopped, but this summer I started to look into coming back. Like a lot of places, there are age restrictions, but then I saw the Summer Sorters program on Fridays for kids 11 and up. I kinda forced my parents to sign me up! 

I immediately loved it. It combines the good feeling that comes from helping people, and organizing, which I love to do. While clients are finishing shopping, we kids are preparing and sorting other things. This includes what is going on the shelves, making boxes for home delivery the next day, organizing pet food for the third Saturday of the month Pet Food Pantry, grinding coffee, or โ€“ my favorite โ€“ peeling a scratched-up protective coating off of a steel table. (I know that last one sounds weird, but itโ€™s great to do when you are waiting and is very satisfying!) Once the front shopping area is open, we restock the shelves with everything they need from the back, from fresh produce to food rescue pastries to toiletries and more. We end up laughing with each other by the end of the two-hour shift, even if we just met.

After a couple weeks of Summer Sorters, I asked Karen if there were other times I could help out. I filled out a volunteer form, and Iโ€™m now an official volunteer. I even helped cook dinner this month! I now sign up for shifts on their great volunteer website. You can see what shifts are open at what times and what a shift entails.ย 

I find volunteering โ€“ especially at The Friendship Center โ€“ to be a very rewarding experience. My parents have raised me to do my best to always help others. One thing in particular is that no matter what happens, you are in no way, shape, or form better than who you are giving a helping hand to. In a lot of cases, someone has just hit a hard time and is otherwise no different than anyone else.

I always feel good afterwards because volunteering gives me a purpose and something to focus on. In this crazy world where you can feel so helpless, it is always good to find something to ground you, that helps you ignore everything else and focus on what you are doing. And in volunteering at The Friendship Center, you know that youโ€™re not just helping yourself but your neighbors as well.

-Cora Weiss


About the Author:

Cora is a soon-to-be 7th grader at a local elementary school. She lives in the neighborhood with her parents (her mom, Kelly, is a Friendship Center board member) and their adorable dog, Scotch.

Providing Better Support with our Partners

The most humane and effective way to get the outdoor cat population to a manageable level is through Trap- Neuter- Return (TNR) services. The Friendship Center Pet Food Pantry compliments the Tree House Humane Societyโ€™s TNR program in many ways.

Cats congregate in areas where there are resources, and many caretakers end up caring for more cats than they can support. While many colony caretakers have a hard time affording the full scope of needed care, out of deep compassion, they continue to dedicate their funds and time to help the cats they encounter. Tree House does what it can to stabilize the colony’s numbers through its no-cost, on-the-ground TNR program.

Due to the speed at which a colony of cats reproduces, the numbers can get out of hand. It is not uncommon for people to start seeing a few cats first, and then for that number to skyrocket. Sometimes, the number of actual cats in a colony is much greater than what the caretaker even realizes. There are many times where we are called onto a site with 10 cats or more! After we treat a colony to stop the chaos of quickly reproducing cats and the focus turns to the colonyโ€™s immediate care, these amazing people are often faced with a scary reality: loving the cats like their own but not having enough resources to feed them adequately.

When I volunteer at the Pet Food Pantry, I see many of those same clients Iโ€™ve worked with receiving the help The Friendship Center provides. It warms my heart to see people who I know pour their heart into the care of the cats, have a resource to turn to in difficult times. Because of programs like The Friendship Centerโ€™s Pet Food Pantry, caretakers have a place to get support and some financial relief. 

Tree House Humane Society partners with The Friendship Center by sharing pet supplies such as food, collars, beds, litter, and other essential items. With the amazing space and program at The Friendship Center, together we can assist many more pet-friendly community members than if each acted alone.ย ย 

-Olivia Radziszewski


About the author:

Olivia leads the TNR efforts at Tree House Humane Society. She has always been interested in helping and supporting animals. As well as has been a foster in many organizations in the Chicagoland area. Having worked in human services as well, she is grateful for the opportunity to bring two together by participating in programs like The Friendship Center Pet Food Pantry. 

Poverty is Not a Mindset

Poverty is not a mindset.  Poverty is a systemic failure.

We often hear that everyone can make it if they would just put forth the effort; that it is their own fault if they are poor. This is untrue.  Many of those that are living on the margins and in the shadows of society have literally been forgotten.  Decades of policy choices have created the dramatic increase in poverty that we are now experiencing. Systems and governmental barriers prevent those living in poverty conditions from escaping. 

As a child, if you grow up in a neighborhood that makes no investment in you, that dismantles your neighborhood by closing schools and stores, blocks transportation access, that removes all resources from your community, you will be impacted.  There is no way you wouldn’t be.  And these experiences help frame our lives and the decisions we make. In fact, most people experiencing chronic homelessness struggle with what we call ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences). 

We are a reactive society, which is one of our biggest downfalls.  We have devalued the lives of children.  These children will grow into adults.  We then expect those adults to operate effectively, with rational thought and make good decisions.  What we don’t recognize is that these adults were the children that ate Cheetos and juicy boxes for breakfast on the way to school.  These are the children we didn’t invest in and gave up on.  How can they thrive in conditions like this?  

People, especially those that deal with chronic homelessness, need more than a roof over their head โ€“ if they even want that.  They need wrap around case services, support, therapeutic healing, mental health services, etc. For example, California is expecting a budget surplus of close to $98 Billion in 2023.  Gov. Newsome will be adding an additional $700 Million to his proposed budget of $2 Billion for housing solutions.  Although this budget increase is commendable, instead of addressing the issues at the root of the problem money is thrown at housing.  This rarely works. 

As I teach my NEIU students in our “Hunger and Homelessness” Justice Studies class, no one grows up wanting to be poor or chronically unhoused.  Systemic barriers and decades of failure have led us here to where we are today.  Failing to provide proactive strategies and solutions, like investing in housing without addressing mental health, is not a legitimate path forward.

-Gaylon Alcaraz, Justice Studies – NEIU


About the author:

Gaylon comes from a long history in Chicago as an activist, organizer and champion of human rights.  For more than twenty five years, she has worked on behalf of sexual minority women, anti-violence, gender equity, health prevention, reproductive rights, as well as race and culture issues. She has consistently applied her knowledge in practice towards quality improvement, increased access, and by challenging frameworks that do not allow for the exploration of diversity across multiple dimensions when working with, and on behalf of diverse constituencies.  Gaylon is the past Executive Director of the Chicago Abortion Fund and is a founding board member of Affinity Community Services, a past board member of the Illinois Caucus for Adolescent Health and the Midwest Access Project. Currently, she is the Director of Operations with the Marsha P. Johnson Institute.

Born and raised in Chicago, Illinois she was awarded her BA and MA from DePaul University.   Gaylon is currently a PhD candidate in Community Psychology at National Louis University.